HAVING A BESTIE IN RELATIONSHIP IS DANGEROUS

HAVING A THIRD PARTY IN RELATIONSHIP IS DANGEROUS 

A popular saying holds that “no man is an Island.” From that saying, it’s clear that humans are not created to be loners. 

This school of thought has reflected in many studies; ranging from studies of lay men to studies by renowned professors. But you will agree with me that “while it is okay to entertain the company of several persons, there are certain companies one may entertain that may turn out to be detrimental, one of which could be the company of BESTIES.”

Even the all-knowing, all-having, all-encompassing God becomes terribly jealous at the sight of another god being entertained by those who supposedly belong to Him. There are several biblical accounts of how God brought to ruin those of His people who entertained other gods. 

There is even an account of how God brought one of those other gods to ruin by causing it to fall facedown without any push or some sort of physical impact. That’s what jealousy can cause!

It is this manner of jealousy that plays out in relationships that entertain third parties in the form of BESTIES. Perhaps, the people of God from the above instance could refer to those other gods as BESTIES. 

But if you’ve glanced through the scriptures for even once, you would notice how God made it a point of duty to bring to ruin those of His people who entertained OTHER GODS, which in this context is nothing short of that relationship woe called BESTIE.

It is a well-known fact that third parties destroy promising relationships. Therefore, it is upon this premise that I make bold to declare that if you want to have a smooth run in your relationship, that relationship must be free from those third parties known as besties. 

No doubt, many would argue that besties pose no harm to relationships. But here, I will be pointing out the downsides of entertaining besties in a relationship. They include:

1. IT BUILDS UP JEALOUSY: 

While entertaining besties may seem normal to one partner, the other partner who may be observing from a distance, may be nurturing terrible feelings of jealousy. People become mildly possessive of their partners when the fall in love. 

Hence, it is normal that they will try to keep their partner to themselves alone, and noticing a steady flow of communication and other activities between a partner and a bestie could bring the affair to an end.

2. MISINTERPRETATION OF FEELINGS. 

While entertaining besties could come off as normal to many people, the fact remains that a bestie is a full-blown human with flaming emotions. 

It is no news that several besties ended up developing emotional feelings which ultimately turned into intimacy. Many are aware of this fact and are usually careful not to fall victim, hence why a partner could end a relationship that has a bestie meddling in the affairs of the relationship.

3. CONTENTION: 

In a relationship, a man wants to feel like a KING while a woman wants to feel like a QUEEN. 

The truth is; the one person a man expects to make him feel that way is his woman, same goes for a woman. But when there is a bestie in the picture, part of the attention craved by the man or the woman will go to the bestie, and neither the man or woman in the relationship will be comfortable with that. 

By entertaining a bestie, you put your partner in an unhealthy competition for your attention. 

This unhealthy competition could be subconscious. Be that as it may, it bears the potential of tampering with the longevity of the affair.

4. LACK OF FOCUS IN THE RELATIONSHIP: 

Besties can be one hell of a distraction. By the time you’ve been in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time, you get acquainted with their moods, love languages, etc. 

Therefore, any slight change in your partner can hardly go unnoticed. Accordingly, by the time a bestie comes into the picture and divides your attention by putting a demand on your time, you become less committed to your partner, and your partner notices your shortfall in commitment. 

In a case like that, entertaining that bestie for much longer could bring the relationship to an end.

5. POSSIBILITY OF UNINTENDED CHEATING: 

As mentioned in number two above, besties are humans will feelings. The same thing goes for those who entertain besties. You may call it a temptation, you may call it a mistake, the fact remains that most people end up in the beds of their besties. 

While such acts could be intentional, some unintentionally get caught up in the web of their emotions and end up sleeping with their besties. 

Of course, as you already know, not so many people can tolerate cheating. So they just end the relationship rather than bear the supposed stigma of sharing a loved and adored partner with a bestie.

6. EXCESSIVE EXPENDITURE OF TIME, MONEY ETC: 

Just like official partners or legally married couples, besties put a demand on time, money, expenditure, etc. 

It’s already difficult to meet the demands of an official partner. 

Adding that of a bestie to it is more like “setting up oneself for excessive expenditure of time, money, etc.” No doubts, this will affect a relationship and could bring it to total ruin.

Now that the various ways by which besties could be detrimental to a relationship has been pointed out, it is hoped that you draw something of a counsel from this piece with which to keep your relationship free from jeopardy. 

Third parties, as we know, have always been dangerous to relationships and marriages, and you will agree with me that besties are third parties. Be that as it may, there could be those who do not agree to this school of thought. 

Share your grievances in the comment area. I will be more than happy to address your concerns as it has to do with this subject.